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Some people say, "Love is beautiful, but marriage is not easy."

Indeed, it is easier to fall in love than to get along.

Marriage is not easy, human fireworks, chicken and dog pieces, not only to withstand the blandness of daily necessities, but also to withstand the test of years.

If you want to live a happy life, you need the joint efforts and management of husband and wife.

Only by mastering the way of management can the marriage be stronger and more happy.

The more experience I have, the more I know that a good marriage is inseparable from this: the restraint of both partners.

Restrain excessive expectations

There is a saying in the book Intimacy:

"The road to hell is paved with expectations. Because expectations will block out loving feelings such as acceptance and freedom. "

In marriage, you expect too much from your partner. Once things don’t go your way, you will fall into the gap between "reality" and "expectation" and be troubled by disappointment, regret and chagrin.

There is a friend around me. Every time I meet her, I hear her complaining about her husband:

"Before I got married, I thought he was good everywhere, tall and handsome, and considerate to me. After getting married, I found that he was lazy and sloppy, with dirty clothes and socks scattered all over the house. Every day, he played games except brushing short videos, and never thought about helping me with housework.

I’m not motivated at all. I’ve been working for seven or eight years, and my salary is still 5 thousand yuan. Everyone else has changed cars and rooms, but he’s still the same. "

Writer Peterson said: "The art of marriage lies in not expecting the husband to be a god with a halo and the wife to be an angel flying. Don’t ask the other person to be perfect, but cultivate your own waywardness, patience and understanding. "

Expecting too much from your partner will often magnify the shortcomings of the other party and make you suffer. In the long run, marriage will inevitably have problems.

Instead of complaining that your partner didn’t give you the expected marriage, you should lower your expectations for marriage and treat your partner with a tolerant attitude.

There is a good saying:

"The core part of marriage is low expectations and high tolerance."

Another friend of mine always looks happy when he talks about marriage.

In fact, her husband works in other places and comes back once a month, which can’t help anything.

She has to take care of her two children, get up before dawn every day to prepare breakfast, then send them to school and then rush to work.

Someone asked her, "Aren’t you tired of doing it all by yourself?"

She smiled and said, "Tired, my husband is far away and can’t count on him. In fact, he is also very hard and busy at work."

Lowering the expectation of marriage is a magic weapon for a happy marriage.

In marriage, one lesson we must learn is to restrain our expectations of our partners.

When expectations are lowered, you will find that all encounters are gifts and life is full of surprises.

Restrain the desire to reform each other

Professor Dai Jianye once said:

"Never be ambitious about love and marriage. The bigger the ambition, the deeper the pain. The more you ask, the less you gain.

In the world of two people, you can set high standards for yourself, but you can’t be strict with your partner. "

He also talked about his relationship with his wife.

He comes from the countryside, and his wife is the son of a cadre family in the city. They have different living environments and life concepts since childhood.

He can’t stand his wife’s extravagance and picky, and she always criticizes his meanness and masculinity.

Both of them are adamant and want to transform each other according to their own standards, thinking that they can transform each other in their own way.

As a result, a leopard cannot change his spots. Instead of changing each other, it hurts his feelings.

Just after the honeymoon, my family was teetering with smoke.

Later, after reflection, the two began to learn to tolerate each other before they found the happiness of their marriage.

Husband and wife come from different families and have different habits, temperaments and hobbies. It is the most unrealistic and selfish idea to ask each other to change blindly.

Many marriages are "dead" in a suffocating desire for transformation.

Best-selling author Christopher Meng also talked about his own experience.

When he was young, he wanted to find a perfect woman.

After he met a good girl, he planned to make her better through transformation.

So, he asked the girl to read more books and cultivate her conversation; Let girls run to have a perfect figure; I also tried to change the girl’s personality and make her gentle and funny.

Finally, the girl not only didn’t become what he wanted, but let the relationship end in a quarrel.

Miyazaki Hayao said: "Love is not to build a perfect person, but to learn to appreciate that imperfect person with beautiful eyes."

As a saying goes: we can’t change the weather, but we can change our mood, we can’t change others, but we can change ourselves.

In marriage, instead of always thinking about changing each other, it is better to change your mentality and learn to understand and be considerate.

Don’t care too much about things outside the principle, and don’t be too obsessed.

When facing your partner, say less "what should you do" and more "what would I do".

Only in this way can marriage present a beautiful side.

After all, if you love someone, you should love what they are, not what you want.

Restrain the tone of reproach

Heard a word:

"Blame is the killer of intimacy."

I think so.

Many times, it is not the unbearable big problems such as infidelity and domestic violence that kill marriage, but the accusations that are easy to ignore.

A listener listened to a backstage message at night and said: After six years of marriage, he was suddenly completely disappointed with his marriage.

It turns out that her husband is busy at work and often works overtime or travels.

She takes care of the baby alone, buys food and cooks, picks up and drops off at school, and helps with homework.

Every time, her husband comes home and always blames him:

Did you do the cleaning? Why is there hair on the sink?

What’s the matter? How long have you left your clothes?

How to coach, the child’s ranking has dropped again!

There is really no common sense. I don’t even know that ribs should be thawed the night before. ……

There is no end to such blame.

The listener said that if it weren’t for the children, she would have divorced.

It’s really embarrassing. The trivia of life, because of criticism and picky, has become a straw to crush marriage.

As the old saying goes: "Kind words with others are warmer than cloth; Hurting people with words is deeper than spears. "

If husband and wife blame and complain blindly, marriage will inevitably fall apart over the years.

On the contrary, if you are considerate and relieved when you are in trouble and face it calmly, there is no hurdle to get through.

A self-media author shared a story.

When my friend Xinxin was shopping, she met a wealth management company doing publicity. She listened to the propaganda of the staff and took out 100,000 yuan from the savings of buying a house. She was full of expectations to get 20% of the proceeds in the next year.

After half a month, Yan Yan went out to do business. When she passed by, she was dismayed to find that the company had gone empty.

Xinxin realized that she had made a big disaster and called her husband in tears.

The husband didn’t say a word of blame, but just comforted her: "Never mind, we can earn again without money."

I have to say that Xinxin’s husband is a wise man. After all, it has happened, and no amount of blame will help.

A "never mind" not only gives his wife great comfort, but also enhances the feelings of husband and wife.

The most touching love words between husband and wife are not "I love you", but not blaming when something happens.

Not blaming things is an indispensable adhesive for a happy marriage, which can bring two hearts closer together.

"Paper Marriage" said:

"Deciding to marry a person only takes a moment of courage; Guarding a marriage requires a lifetime of hard work. "

There is no natural perfect marriage, only happiness managed by heart.

People who really love will restrain themselves.

Restrain excessive expectations and find the bright spot of the other party;

Restrain the desire to reform and accept each other’s imperfections;

Restrain the tone of reproach, and speak well on big and small issues.

In this way, marriage can stand the test of years and win the happiness of flowing water.

At the end of the article, I light up [watching]. I hope all my friends can master the secret of a happy marriage and live a beautiful and fruitful life for the rest of their lives.

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Original title: "A marriage can go to the end, just look at this."

On March 18th, the Information Office of the Autonomous Region Government held the forty-fourth press conference of COVID-19 Epidemic Prevention and Control Headquarters. Li Bingsheng, deputy director of the Public Security Department of the Autonomous Region, and Jiang Xiaofeng, deputy director of the Center for Comprehensive Disease Control and Prevention of the Autonomous Region, answered questions from reporters about the prevention and control of epidemic situation of overseas returnees.

Reporter: Please tell us what measures the autonomous region has taken to deal with the risk of overseas import. How many overseas personnel, Chinese overseas Chinese and international students have returned to Inner Mongolia? What is the daily traffic?

Li Bingsheng:At present, the situation of epidemic prevention and control in China continues to improve. There have been no new cases in our region and many provinces in China for several days, but the spread of overseas epidemic has accelerated. Recently, Chinese overseas students and migrant workers have a strong desire to return to China, and the risk of importing overseas epidemic has become the biggest risk at present. The situation is complex, the task is arduous and the pressure has suddenly increased.

I have a set of data here: according to the data of immigrants pushed by the National Immigration Bureau and the comparative analysis of civil aviation, airports, railways and other information, from 0: 00 on March 1 to 24: 00 on March 16, the data of people entering our region was 2,420, and from March 1 to 13, the average daily flow was about 110. From March 14th to 17th, the average flow was about 200 people. Through the action of "attacking and clearing No.4", the public security organs in the whole region have implemented verification and control measures for all the immigrants entering our region through big data+community arrangement and tracking one by one, and conducted centralized isolation medical observation and home isolation medical observation.

Judging from the above data, the risk of importing overseas epidemic is still very high. Therefore, in order to effectively prevent the spread of COVID-19 epidemic and effectively protect people’s health and life safety, according to the Law of People’s Republic of China (PRC) on the Prevention and Control of Infectious Diseases and the relevant requirements of the State Council’s joint prevention and control mechanism for COVID-19 epidemic, on March 15, the COVID-19 Epidemic Prevention and Control Command of Inner Mongolia issued the Announcement on Preventing the Import of Overseas Epidemic, which put forward requirements for the implementation of information declaration, centralized isolation and enhanced security for overseas personnel from Inner Mongolia, and strengthened the prevention of overseas epidemic.

In terms of specific social control, we will focus on the following aspects:

First, further strengthen the early warning of big data judgment and earnestly implement various closed-loop prevention and control measures for inbound transshipment.

First, we must predict the early warning in advance. The social control group has set up a special big data class to integrate and share the data information of border inspection, airports, railways, foreign affairs and other departments, and strive to predict every person who enters our region in advance and push it to Union City and Qixian County in time. All Union cities should also set up a special big data class to monitor daily, make further judgment and analysis, make the situation of every person who enters Mongolia more accurate, move forward to the prevention and control gate, report upwards, push in parallel and deploy downwards in a three-pronged manner. Make sure that there is no leakage and no dead angle.

The second is to carry out a major investigation of immigrants. In accordance with the requirements of the prevention and control headquarters of COVID-19, Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region, the object of centralized isolation shall cover all overseas returnees. At present, the big data special class is sorting out all the people who have entered Mongolia since March 1, and all the allied cities should immediately organize a comprehensive investigation of the returned overseas people within their jurisdiction, and all the returned overseas people within 14 days since March 1 should implement centralized isolation or home isolation measures as required. Public security organs at all levels should investigate and deal with those who deliberately conceal the history of living abroad and fail to report to the local authorities as required.

The third is to coordinate linkage and closed-loop prevention and control. The Public Security Department and the Health and Health Commission have sent competent leaders and special personnel to co-ordinate the transshipment and safety protection of airports in Beijing and the autonomous region. All localities and departments should strengthen coordination and linkage, keep a close eye on entry, transshipment, entry into the zone and other links, adhere to the integration of online and offline, integration within and outside the zone, secure the customs at all levels, hand-to-hand handover step by step, and ensure that the whole process is known and controllable.

Two, strictly implement the centralized isolation, home isolation prevention and control measures.

According to the requirements of the autonomous region, people who come to our region from countries with serious epidemics such as Japan, South Korea, Italy and Iran are all concentrated in medical observation; People from other countries, except those who have the conditions of single-person home isolation, will be centralized and isolated for medical observation. All persons entering Mongolia must truthfully declare and register their identity information, local address, contact telephone number, itinerary within 14 days, health status, entry purpose and other information. Among them, the most worrying thing is the link of home isolation and community prevention and control. We should vigorously promote the "big data+grid" community policing work, speed up the construction of community full-time and part-time grid workers and other group defense forces, deepen the construction of smart security communities and safe communities, firmly hold the forefront of community prevention and control, and all localities should maximize their strength into communities, compact their responsibilities and strictly implement relevant requirements.

For those who really need to be isolated at home, they must apply to the community and conduct on-the-spot verification procedures at the county headquarters to ensure that they have fixed housing, can meet the conditions of living alone, and meet the standards of medical isolation, before they can take 14-day medical observation measures of single-person home isolation. The territory should implement the one-to-one management and service guarantee measures of one person, one special class and one person, one program.

The social prevention and control group should grasp all the measures in all aspects in a down-to-earth manner, tightly and tightly, carefully and carefully, resolutely ensure that no one is allowed to enter Mongolia without being discovered before, and that no one is allowed to enter Mongolia without being isolated, and no case of imported cases from abroad will form an epidemic spread incident, resolutely build an overseas epidemic import defense line, and win the epidemic prevention and control people’s war, general war and blocking war in an all-round way.

Here, we hope that those who arrive in Inner Mongolia from abroad will strictly abide by the above regulations and actively cooperate with relevant departments to prevent and control the epidemic. At the same time, we also hope that the broad masses of the people will widely publicize and implement our social prevention and control measures.　

　　　　　　 Reporter: At present, there is a lot of information on the Internet about overseas returnees hiding their illness, disobeying quarantine management and affecting epidemic prevention and control. Has this happened in our region? What measures will the relevant departments take in response to such behavior? What shall we do if it is a foreign nationality?

Li Bingsheng:As this reporter said, in recent days, overseas returnees did conceal their illness, disobey isolation management, and affect epidemic prevention and control. On March 12th, Genghis Khan police station in Xincheng District of Hohhot found that Zhao and Shamou (sisters), residents of a residential area in Xincheng District of Hohhot, had close contact with Guo Moupeng, a confirmed patient of Zhengzhou’s new type of coronary pneumonia, during their flight entry from Turkey via Abu Dhabi on March 7th. Zhao and Shamou deliberately concealed their exit history after returning, and did not strictly implement the measures of "isolated observation" and "truthful declaration". During this period, they were free to move around the community for many times and went out to eat in restaurants, which caused the spread of COVID-19 epidemic. At present, the Public Security Bureau of Xincheng District of Hohhot has filed a case investigation against Zhao and Shamou on suspicion of obstructing the prevention and treatment of infectious diseases, and the disease control department has taken compulsory isolation observation measures against them.

In response to this kind of behavior, on March 16th, the Supreme Law, the Supreme People’s Procuratorate, the Ministry of Public Security, the Ministry of Justice and the General Administration of Customs jointly issued the Opinions on Further Strengthening Frontier Health and Quarantine Work and Punishing Illegal Crimes that Impede Frontier Health and Quarantine according to Law, sorting out six kinds of behaviors that may be convicted and imprisoned, including refusing to implement health and quarantine measures such as health declaration, body temperature monitoring, medical inspection and epidemiological investigation, concealing the epidemic situation by not filling in health declaration cards truthfully, and means of entry and exit transportation.

Some immigrants are lucky enough to take various measures to refuse to declare, or fail to truthfully declare their health status and cooperate with body temperature monitoring; There are also some immigrants who know that they have developed symptoms such as fever and dry cough, or have been to areas with serious epidemics, deliberately concealing the incidence and overseas travel history. Some people even took antipyretic drugs to lower their body temperature and cover up their fever symptoms, and got away with it in the customs health and quarantine. After entering the country, they were diagnosed as COVID-19, which led to people who were in close contact with them being infected or observed in isolation, posing great risks to public health and safety. According to the provisions of the Criminal Law and the newly issued Opinions, the above acts can be convicted and punished for "the crime of obstructing frontier health and quarantine" in accordance with the provisions of Article 332 of the Criminal Law.

At the same time, on March 15th, the COVID-19 Epidemic Prevention and Control Command of Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region issued the Announcement on Preventing the Import of Outbreaks from Abroad, which also made it clear that public security organs at all levels should investigate and deal with those who deliberately conceal the history of living abroad and fail to report to the local authorities as required. The circular also stressed that all immigrants should abide by the relevant regulations on the prevention and control of local epidemic situation during their stay in Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region, and those who refuse to cooperate with the prevention and control measures of epidemic situation will be investigated for legal responsibility according to law. All the immigrants mentioned here, including foreign nationals.

Reporter: Please tell us how to isolate and resettle overseas returnees.

Jiang Xiaofeng:In order to control the source of infection to the maximum extent, cut off the route of transmission, and effectively prevent the risk of imported COVID-19 epidemic from abroad, Inner Mongolia strictly implemented the relevant measures and regulations for epidemic prevention and control of overseas returnees during the epidemic period, comprehensively and meticulously grasped the basic information, entry time, passing ports, vehicles and physical health status of the inbound personnel, and implemented remote monitoring, entry screening, classified management, problem finding, timely disposal and scientific prevention and control.

　　　　　　　With regard to entry screening, people with fever and other symptoms and their close contacts found in entry wear disposable medical protective masks, conduct epidemiological investigation independently and collect samples for testing. After completing the entry frontier inspection procedures, the entry frontier inspection station will dock with the local epidemic prevention and control headquarters, and conduct investigation, diagnosis and treatment and close contact management as required. The rest of the staff carried out epidemiological investigation, sample collection, testing and entry-related procedures as required. All entry personnel should consciously abide by the relevant provisions of the state, autonomous regions and territories on epidemic prevention and control, and consciously accept inspection and quarantine, isolated observation and other prevention and control measures.

　

1905 movie network news The nomination list for the 96th Academy Awards in 2024 was announced on the evening of January 23rd, Beijing time, and Zazie Beetz and Jack Quaid presided over the nomination activities. Christopher Nolan directed Oppenheimer to win 13 nominations, including best picture and best director. Cillian Murphy, the leading actor of the film and the winner of the Golden Globe Award, nominated for the Oscar for the first time, and Robert Downey Jr., the "Iron Man", also won the Golden statuette ticket for this film.

Poor thing with 11 nominations and Killers of the Flower Moon with 10 nominations followed closely behind Oppenheimer. Emma Stone, who won the Golden Globe Award and the Critics’ Choice Award, was once again shortlisted for the Oscar for Best Actress with Poor Things as expected. The Master of Music, directed and performed by Bradley Cooper, rose to the top, and was shortlisted in the three awards of best film, best actor and best actress.

Although Barbie, which was highly regarded by the outside world, missed two nominations, namely, Best Director and Best Actress. "Commander Gao" Ryan Gosling was nominated for the best actor in this Oscar for Barbie, and "I’m Just Ken" sung by him was once again shortlisted for the Golden Globe Award after winning the best original song, which also made fans expect that "Commander Gao" could reappear in the awards ceremony.

In addition, the best film "The Trial of Falling" in the Palme d ‘Or won five nominations for best film, best director, best original script, best actress and best editing. Miyazaki Hayao’s latest masterpiece, What kind of life do you want to live, will compete with four films, including Crazy Element City and Spider-Man: Vertical and Horizontal Universe, for the best animated feature film.

It is reported that the 96th Academy Awards ceremony will be held on March 10th, US time.

Winners of the 96th Academy Awards:

Best Picture

American novel

The trial of falling

Barbie

Retention League

Killers of the Flower Moon

Master of Music

Oppenheimer

Past life

Poor thing　

Region of interest　

best director

Justin Tarie’s The Trial of Falling.　

Yorgos lanthimos’s Poor Thing

Oppenheimer, Christopher Nolan

Jonathan glazer’s Region of Interest

Killers of the Flower Moon, martin scorsese　

best actor

Bradley cooper’s Master of Music

Coleman Domingo’s Rustin

Paul giamatti’s Retention League

Oppenheimer, Cillian Murphy

Jeffrey wright’s American Fiction　

best actress

Annette bening’s Ned

Killers of the Flower Moon, Lily Gladstone

Sandra wheeler’s The Trial of Falling.

Carey mulligan’s Master of Music

Emma Stone’s Poor Thing　

Best Supporting Actor

Sterling K. Brown’s American Fiction

Killers of the Flower Moon, Robert De Niro

Oppenheimer, Robert Downey Jr.

Ryan Gosling’s Barbie

Mark Alan Ruffalo’s Poor Thing　

Best supporting actress

Emily Bronte Oppenheimer

Danielle Brooks, The Color Purple

America ferrera’s Barbie

Damien Joy Randolph’s Stay in School League

Jodie Foster’s Ned　

Best Original Screenplay

The trial of falling

Retention League

Master of Music

May and December

Past life　

Best adapted screenplay

Barbie

Oppenheimer

American novel

Poor thing

Region of interest　

Best international film

I am the captain

Perfect day

Desperate Covenant

Teachers’ lounge

Region of interest　

Best Animated Feature Film

What kind of life do you want to live?

Crazy element city

Spider-Man: The Universe.　

Monster girl Nimona

Dream of robots　

Best documentary feature film

Bobby Wayne: President of the Street

Eternal memory

The daughters of Olefa

Slaughter the tiger

20 Days in upor, Mali　

Best editing

The trial of falling

Retention League

Oppenheimer

Poor thing

Killers of the Flower Moon　

Best cinematography

Earl

Killers of the Flower Moon

Master of Music

Oppenheimer

Poor thing

Best visual effect

AI creator

Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 3

Mission impossible 7

Napoleon

Godzilla -1.0　

Best art direction

Barbie

Killers of the Flower Moon

Napoleon

Oppenheimer

Poor thing　

Best makeup & hairstyle

Master of Music

Oppenheimer

Golda.

Poor thing

Desperate Covenant　

Best soundtrack

American novel

Indiana Jones 5

Killers of the Flower Moon

Oppenheimer

Poor thing　

Best song

American symphony-It Never Went Away

Barbie-I’m Just Ken

The Birth of Hot Cheetos-The Fire Inside

Killers of the Flower Moon-　Wahzhazhe(A Song For My People)

Barbie-What Was I Made For? "　

Best live-action short film

The people who stayed behind

"invincible"

Knight of fortune

Red, white and blue

The Magic Story of Henry Sugar　

Best animated short film

Letter with the pig

Ninety-five senses

《Our Uniform》

Thick skin

《War Is Over! Inspired by the Music of John & Yoko》　

Best documentary short film

Basic Law on Banning Books

《The Barber Of Little Rock》

《The Last Repair Shop》

Grandma and grandma　

Best sound effect

AI creator

Master of Music

Mission impossible 7

Oppenheimer

Region of interest

Best fashion design

Barbie

Killers of the Flower Moon

Oppenheimer

Poor thing

Napoleon

I found a rule: doing housework can make me feel calm.

Whenever my thoughts are upset, I will sweep the dust from the floor, clean the sink, or wipe off the floating dust on the table, and store the clothes on the folding clothes rack … Waiting for the indoor window to be clear, all my irritability and anxiety will rest in peace for a while, and I will have a bright good mood again.

When I said these words, I was a little hesitant. After all, I don’t want to poeticize all trivial tasks such as washing rags, cleaning garbage and sucking dust, and whitewash the already difficult situation of many housewives who struggle in housework day after day.

I mean, doing housework itself often brings me some comfort. This is not my own opinion, and similar remarks can often be seen scattered on social media. Moreover, there are scientific reasons!

01

Comfort of housework: gaining pleasure in doing housework?

Tidying up your desk, watering plants or folding clothes are all chores that do not meet the standards of hedonism. However, I often find that I can seek pleasure and comfort in these small repetitive tasks.

If I’m waiting for an important call, or I’m stuck in the writer’s block because I have an urgent task, I often choose to rearrange my collection of records or clean up the files around the office. Sometimes this is the most relaxing moment for me all day.

I’m not alone. When we are under the pressure of the epidemic, according to the report, many people say that they are interested in cleaning up their homes again as a way to cope with the uncertain life. On the oil pipeline, videos of some people doing housework even have a large audience, and some of the most popular video clips have been watched by millions of people.

Psychologists believe that there are many potential mechanisms to explain the perfect pleasure of relaxing life, and these relaxing behaviors are likely to encourage you to live a better life.

02

The scientific truth of housework and recreation

On the surface, doing some simple housework for recreation may be good for your mood. It occupies our brains, so we will pay less attention to the things that worry us. For example, we may struggle with our own thoughts in our brains, but we also find that housework can fix us in the here and now. This mainly depends on where we focus.

In a study on the effects of washing dishes on mental health, researchers from Florida State University divided 51 participants into two groups. Half the people were asked to read the article, encouraging them to focus on the feelings generated by activities. "When washing dishes, you should be fully aware of the fact that you are washing dishes." The other half read the instructions on how to wash dishes, but no one explicitly encouraged them to focus on the feeling of washing dishes.

Afterwards, the researchers asked the participants to fill out a questionnaire about their experience. Those participants who had full sensory experience reported that their mood was significantly better. The specific content includes that their nervousness has decreased, and they even have a kind of "inspiration" for generate. Immersing themselves in simple activities for a while will refresh their minds.

03

Enhance the ability of perception control

Different from other distracting activities, such as playing computer games or watching soap operas, doing housework for recreation also has an obvious advantage, which is to increase our sense of control.

When we feel anxious, helplessness will aggravate the physiological stress response and increase the level of hormones such as cortisol. In the long run, helplessness will even damage the function of the immune system.

Ideally, we would deal directly with the disturbing situation itself. However, research shows that we can gain a sense of control from activities that bother us but have little impact.

Stacy Bedwell, a psychologist at the Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology and Neuroscience at King’s College London, said: "We will believe or feel that we have control, but it doesn’t have to be consistent with the actual control situation." She said. Being able to change our environment can create a beneficial sense of control, which can also explain why cleaning and tidying up our home makes people feel so healed.

Some studies on the elderly also prove this view. Professor Allen Langer of Harvard University and Professor Judith Rodin of Yale University conducted a classic study. The study was conducted in a nursing home and participants were divided into two groups. The first group of participants were allowed to change the room according to their own ideas. They can decorate their furniture at will and get a plant. They need to take care of themselves. At the same time, the second group of participants were told that the staff would take care of everything in the room, and they didn’t even have to water the plants. In the next 18 months, the residents in the former group who are in charge of their own rooms are in better health than the latter group.

For example, grouping objects by color can provide better exercise for the brain to control chaos. The former group of participants may have received more exercise than the latter group. Langer and Rodin believe that this kind of exercise is mainly psychological, and their sense of control over life is enhanced.

04

A tidy room, a focused heart.

The benefits don’t stop there. If your housework is mainly organized, you may find that a cleaner environment will bring you comfort.

As Ethan Cross, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, wrote in his book. If we see order in our living environment, our inner feelings will not be so chaotic. "It can make life more predictable."

Bedwell points out that this may have a significant impact on your ability to concentrate. "If you sit at the kitchen table and your laptop is surrounded by clutter, then your brain must constantly deal with a lot of visual stimuli, and at the same time you should try to concentrate on the task at hand. Eliminate visual confusion and you can concentrate more easily. "

Brain imaging research also supports this view. Generally speaking, when you increase the number of distracting objects in the scene, your brain activity will become more intense, and every object is competing for our attention. This may cause your brain to become tired, making it difficult to concentrate for a long time.

What’s important is that you don’t have to remove the clutter to prevent this from happening, you just need to rearrange it. Grouping objects, for example, by color, can reduce some nervous confusion and improve our attention.

Doing housework can reduce anxiety, relieve stress reaction, increase attention and release endorphins. No wonder many people immediately choose to do housework when faced with uncertainty.

Like all activities, the benefits of these activities will be influenced by your personal taste and psychology. For example, the effect of running and other sports can be adjusted by people’s mentality. Sorting, cleaning and sorting are no exception. If you hate doing housework and only reluctantly pick up the broom, it may be difficult to get the pleasure of doing housework for recreation.

Original title: "Comfort of housework: Doing housework will make people happy, which I didn’t expect …"

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Dong Mingzhu, deputy to the National People’s Congress and vice chairman and president of Gree Electric, who is attending the Fourth Session of the 11th National People’s Congress, recently formally submitted two proposals to the conference, calling for improving the recycling mechanism of used electrical appliances and strengthening the consumption tax collection and management of luxury goods enterprises.

　　

Improve the recycling mechanism of waste electrical appliances

　　

According to relevant statistics, at present, the number of TV sets, refrigerators, washing machines and air conditioners in China has reached 350 million, 130 million, 170 million and 120 million respectively. These household appliances began to enter the family in the middle and late 1980s, usually with a service life of 10 to 15 years. Since 2003, at least 5 million TV sets, 4 million refrigerators and 5 million washing machines have to be scrapped in China, and now it is growing geometrically. In addition, at present, there are nearly 20 million computers and 190 million mobile phones in China, and these two electronic products are updated much faster than household appliances. About 5 million computers and tens of millions of mobile phones have entered the elimination period every year. These waste household appliances contain a large number of scarce metal resources in China, which are essentially "urban mines" resources. If China can also attach importance to the development of these "urban mines", it will also be of great significance to the supply and guarantee of national resources.

　　

At present, the main body of e-waste recycling in China is mostly self-employed, which mainly flows to the secondary market and carries out primary dismantling. The means are nothing more than "burning with fire" or "washing with water" (corroded by strong acids such as aqua regia), which not only fails to make full use of these precious resources, but also easily leads to secondary pollution, and pollution problems have already appeared in many places. This situation is unable to undertake the mission of developing "urban mines". If advanced disassembly and treatment technology is adopted, compared with the exploitation and smelting of natural mineral resources, the development of "urban mines" can greatly reduce energy consumption and "three wastes" emission, etc. Recycling and treating waste household appliances and electronic products has many advantages and characteristics: for example, it eliminates the harm to the environment while recycling a large number of useful metals and rare precious metals; Reduce the import of scrap metal from abroad and delay the development of natural mine resources; Save energy consumption, reduce environmental pressure, etc. It is difficult to deal with the electronic waste in cities, and it relies heavily on the new recycling technology, and the relevant regulations of the state are issued late, which leads to the high start-up capital investment in the development of "urban mines", which is one of the main reasons why "urban mines" have not been paid attention to for a long time and it is difficult to wake up after a long sleep.

　　

In a sense, attaching importance to the development of "urban mines" is no less than the development of natural mine resources. Because the development of "urban mines" is more environmentally friendly, more ecological and more economical. Dong Mingzhu believes that on April 1st, 2010, the Technical Specification for Pollution Control of Waste Electrical and Electronic Products was issued and formally implemented, and on January 1st, 2011, the Regulations on the Management of Waste Electrical and Electronic Products Recycling (hereinafter referred to as the Regulations) and other supporting policies and measures were formally implemented. Although the promulgation and implementation of these regulations have greatly promoted the recycling of waste household appliances in China into the journey of environmental protection, they are still insufficient.

　　

To this end, Dong Mingzhu suggested: First, the construction of laws, regulations and systems needs to be further improved. In recent years, although the waste electrical and electronic processing industry has developed rapidly, due to the late start of the industry, the requirements of relevant authorities on specific processing methods and standards have not been clear, resulting in a variety of processing technologies and equipment. Although the "Regulations" regulate the responsibilities of interested parties, it is a little too general and not very operational. The responsibilities of producers, wasters and recyclers of electronic and electrical products are not clearly defined in the Regulations. There is no mention of specific measures to cultivate national environmental awareness; The encouragement policy for production enterprises to participate in the treatment is not clear; The supervision and management measures are not refined, and the punishment is far from enough. If the above problems are not solved, it will make it difficult to standardize the recycling operation, and the situation of "regular army" and "guerrilla" is still impossible to change substantially.

　　

Second, the establishment and improvement of the recycling system. How to subvert the current scattered and disorderly guerrilla traditional resource recovery model, and establish and improve a modern recovery system is the key link in the exploitation of urban mine resources. The recycling channel is not smooth, and it is difficult to concentrate a large number of discarded household appliances and electronic products, which leads to the formal dismantling enterprises "cooking without rice", while "guerrillas" and "small workshops" are booming. It is suggested that the government introduce mandatory policies for the recycling system, strengthen the responsibilities of the government, consumers, recyclers/producers and recycling fund management committees, vigorously implement resource recycling and waste reduction, and encourage the participation of the whole people through feedback, so as to establish and improve the recycling system.

　　

Third, strengthen supervision and management. Up to now, most policies on "urban mines" are multi-door and multi-head management, which increases the difficulty of policy coordination. The recycling and harmless disposal of waste household appliances and electronic products involves many links such as product production, circulation, consumption, recovery, disassembly, recycling and final disposal, and involves more than 10 government administrative departments, and the policies of these administrative departments must be coordinated to promote the healthy development of waste recycling industry. Therefore, in order to effectively improve the current situation that supervision is not in place, it is suggested that the government set up a special management department to be fully responsible for managing the whole process of recycling waste household appliances and electronic products, so as to prevent the disorderly situation of "Jiulong Water Control".

　　

Strengthen the collection and management of consumption tax in luxury enterprises

　　

According to statistics, at present, China has become an important market for luxury consumption in the world, including not only luxury goods such as luxury cars, but also daily consumer goods such as business jets and yachts for some rich people in China. Of course, this also proves from one side that China’s economy is growing stronger and stronger. However, we should pay attention to the tax problem of luxury consumption, which is not only about the seriousness of tax law implementation, but also about the fairness and justice of income distribution.

　　

In 2003, the total personal income tax revenue in China was 141.8 billion yuan, accounting for 6.5% of the total national tax revenue from 1.4% in 1994. However, until 2010, the personal income tax accounted for 6.6% of the national tax revenue, which shows that the proportion of individual income tax has not increased with the increase of the income of high-income groups. The key reason is that the rich don’t really pay taxes according to their income. "High-income earners pay more taxes" doesn’t mean "rich people pay more taxes". The high-income earners mentioned here are mainly wage earners.

　　

At present, many bosses of private enterprises only give themselves a symbolic salary, and their luxury consumption, such as airplanes, yachts, luxury cars, high-end clubs, etc., are all purchased and paid in the name of enterprises, all of which are made into "expense costs" from accounting. Operating through enterprises not only evades personal income tax, but also deducts corporate income tax. Article 8 of the Enterprise Income Tax Law stipulates that "reasonable expenses actually incurred by an enterprise related to income, including costs, expenses, taxes, losses and other expenses, are allowed to be deducted when calculating taxable income", and Article 11 stipulates that "depreciation deduction is not allowed for the following fixed assets: fixed assets unrelated to business activities". Therefore, according to the provisions of the tax law, personal and family expenses, consumption of business owners and depreciation of fixed assets purchased for personal consumption are not allowed before tax.

　　

In this regard, Dong Mingzhu said that the state can stop the "reasonable tax avoidance" of some business owners through the collection of consumption tax of luxury enterprises. She suggested that with reference to the management standards of state-owned enterprises, unified management standards and norms should be introduced for all enterprises, and a step-by-step tax rate should be imposed on some enterprises’ consumption exceeding the standard.

　　According to the report of Jinan Health and Health Commission, from 0: 00 to 24: 00 on April 25, 2022, Jinan reported 2 newly confirmed local cases and 34 newly asymptomatic local infected people.

　　From 0: 00 to 24: 00 on April 25, 2022, 2 cases of confirmed cases in Jinan were discharged, and 5 cases of asymptomatic infection in Jinan were released from medical observation.

　　Case 1-17:All of them tested positive for nucleic acid during centralized isolation. On April 25th, after consultation by the expert group, one case was confirmed in COVID-19 and 16 cases were asymptomatic infected in Covid-19.

　　Case 18-28:The nucleic acid test of key personnel in the control area was positive. On April 25th, after consultation by the expert group, he was diagnosed as asymptomatic infected person in Covid-19.

　　Cases 29-36:Community health screening nucleic acid test was positive. On April 25th, after consultation by the expert group, one case was confirmed in COVID-19 and seven cases were asymptomatic infected in Covid-19. The preliminary epidemiological investigation track was subsequently released.

　　By 24: 00 on April 25, 2022, there were 18 locally confirmed cases and 278 locally asymptomatic infected people in Jinan. 3 cases of asymptomatic infection were imported from abroad.

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On August 1st, the movie "Catch the Doll", with the excellent performances of Shen Teng and Mary, successfully broke through 2.4 billion at the box office, which injected vitality into the recently slightly deserted movie market. The success of this film is largely due to the re-engagement of the golden combination of "Shen Ma+Yan Fei Peng Damo". In the process of constructing the universe of Xihong City, directors Yan Fei and Peng Damo have already proved their strength through goodbye mr. loser and The Richest Man in Xihong City. These works are all from their hands, and they have also won a win-win situation for Mahua FunAge in word of mouth and box office. Back in 2003, Beijing Free Element Film and Television Culture Communication Co., Ltd., the predecessor of Mahua FunAge, was founded by three young people with different backgrounds, including Yu Kai of Chinese Department of Peking University, You Liang Tian of Chinese Opera, and entrepreneur Zhang Chen. At first, they tried to adapt the novel into a TV series, but it failed because of the influence of SARS. Subsequently, You Liang Tian turned to the field of drama, and released his first work, I’ll give you a twist if you want to eat it. Although it was initially challenged by the box office, it finally found its own audience in Haidian Theater with its unique style and word-of-mouth fermentation, and Mahua FunAge became famous.

The addition of actors such as Shen Teng, Allen, Wei Xiang, Song Yang and Du Xiaoyu further enriched the cast of Mahua FunAge, and many of them joined through internal recommendation, forming a stable team foundation. Mary, in particular, attracted the attention of Peng Damo for her outstanding performance in the small theater, and eventually became an indispensable member of Mahua FunAge.

The turning point of Mahua FunAge appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Evening. The skits written and directed by Yan Fei and Peng Damo, especially the role of "Hao Jian" played by Shen Teng, gradually made the team members familiar to the national audience. Despite the enormous pressure of the Spring Festival Gala, the Mahua FunAge team boarded the Spring Festival Gala for many years with unremitting efforts and unique creativity, which not only enhanced its popularity, but also promoted the development of its members’ personal careers, and Shen Teng became an important figure in China comedy movies.

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Recently, Ah Kun has been quite emotional. The knowledge of marketing is really extensive and profound, and many manufacturers will choose to promote their products through cross-border marketing. Friends who like sports and basketball recently must have heard that Geely Crossover Basketball has held Geely Colorful China Steel Cannon Basketball Rising Star Trials. It seems that Geely has understood the cross-border marketing part. Then today’s line photo manga "Driving You to Play" is to take you to play basketball.

In the first match of Chengdu Station from June 26th to 27th, dozens of teams competed for the championship of the sub-station and the place to advance to the national finals. On the 27th, Ah Kun, who was photographed in the comics, was fortunate to have zero-distance contact with CBA star Zhu Songwei and streetball expert SOMA, and felt the scope of the game at the scene.

It is reported that this competition uses a 3 + 1 format, consisting of a 3v3 team competition and a 1v1 individual competition, which not only tests team cooperation, but also compares individual strength. In the preliminary round on June 26, in addition to 36 social teams from Chengdu, 12 car owners teams composed of Colorful Car Owners participated together. In the 3v3 confrontation, the social team Amazing team and the Fourman team finally advanced to the finals on the second day.

In the 3v3 final on June 27, just 7 seconds before the end of the game, Fourman’s Serbian player SpaicFilip staged a lore, and after two shots, he successfully leveled the score and reversed the game. In the subsequent 1v1 singles, SpaicFilip once again staged a buzzer lore, successfully leveling the score, but after the on-site referee confirmed through video replay, because Fourman’s last shot was only 0.2 seconds slower, and finally the Amazing ball won the Chengdu social team championship. The intensity of the live game is evident. The car owners team won the Chengdu championship by the Flames.

It is worth mentioning that this event also invited CBA star Zhu Songwei, streetball expert SOMA, and well-known bucklers Chen Junhao, Wan Xu, Xu Wencheng, and Xu Wenhao to the scene of the Geely Colorful China Steel Cannon Basketball Rising Stars Selection Tournament, which aroused cheers from fans at the scene, which undoubtedly heated up the atmosphere at the scene.

Finally, CBA star Zhu Songwei, as the selection officer, announced the MVP of the event – Serbian player SpaicFilip on the spot. Zhu Songwei said: I think talent is important, but hard work is more important. In Serbian player SpaicFilip, I saw the kind of never-admit-defeat struggle. This struggle is also the interpretation of the Battle spirit that Colorful has always passed on for young competition. This spirit of never giving up at any time is also what I have always believed in. In him, I saw myself. And SpaicFilip players will be selected as potential rising stars, and together with the rising stars of Chengdu, Kunming, Changsha and Hangzhou, they will form a new team and go to the Beijing finals.

Subsequently, the streetball expert SOMA also performed at the Chengdu station; the SOMA step of "my true biography" was selected to compete on the spot. Chen Junhao, Wan Xu, Xu Wencheng, and Xu Wenhao participated in the dunk contest, and SOMA, Zhu Songwei, and Geely representatives were the judges. The audience brought wonderful performances such as dunk, dunk, front dunk, reverse dunk, and fancy dunk. Finally, Xu Wenhao won the championship of the dunk contest. SOMA and Zhu Songwei made professional comments on the competition and provided valuable experience and suggestions to the dunkers.

Geely’s representative commented on the players: the original intention of the sportsmanship event that keeps fighting is very suitable. As a high-performance SUV built for young people, Colorful not only satisfies young people’s pursuit of performance with the strength of Chinese steel cannons, but also hopes that such a model with a battle spirit can truly inspire young people, allowing young people to battle and enjoy, just like perseverance and struggle on the field of love, competing for young people.

At the scene, in addition to exciting basketball games, spectators can also participate in swtich games, DIY painting, fun dunks, manicures, and Geely Colorful test drives in the interactive area, and participate in a weekend party in person.

As a global model created by Geely for young people, Geely Binyue has a stable structure with BMA modular architecture, 7.9S zero-hundred acceleration performance and sporty appearance, which has attracted some young people. This time, Geely Binyue further bundles "basketball" and "car". Through the creation of basketball IP, it encourages more people to participate in basketball, helps basketball fans chase their basketball dreams, and discovers more potential and possible young players to help the development of Chinese basketball culture. The next stop, Kunming Station, will be held on July 10-11. Friends who like battle may wish to look forward to it.

Text | Photographs, Ah Kun

Fast Technology April 15th news, ask the world M5 series Huawei high-end intelligent driving version will be released on April 17th, travel comfortable, peace of mind, more worry-free!

It is understood that the car’s greatest highlight is the use of Huawei’s latest ADS high-level intelligent driving system, which can achieve high-level assisted driving without relying on high-precision maps.

Today, the urban measurement video of the M5 smart driving version of the Q Jie was exposed online. In the case of unmanned operation,The M5 Smart Driving Edition is very slippery at intersections, tunnels, elevated roads, night roads, and other scenes, comparable to old drivers.

As you can see in the video, with the blessing of lidar + visual perception,The M5 Smart Driving Edition not only successfully realizes unprotected left turns, automatically recognizes obstacles/construction areas and detours, but also avoids significant lane changes or sudden acceleration/braking throughout the process.

The M5 Smart Driving Edition can also enter the left-turn waiting area and recognize the countdown of traffic lights, while safely crossing the opposite lane and performing high-level operations such as comity for pedestrians in zebra crossings and non-motorized vehicles in bicycle lanes.